Here are 12 best ways to build a great personality and be an awesome human being in this journey called life.
Growing up, I heard the word ‘personality’ a lot in my house.
My father always encouraged my brother and me to build a good personality. He taught us to be ourselves, to walk with pride, and to be kind and bold at the same time.
Now that I look back, I realize how refreshing that encouragement was, and how monumental it was in shaping me as a person.
That steady push to have a good personality set me on a path. It helped me go after my dreams with boldness and carry myself with confidence.
Something you need to understand is that personality isn’t an unchangeable trait you’re either born with or not. It’s actually a skill set and a daily practice.
You can hone it, improve it, and show it off in ways that feel genuine, not forced.
People with good personalities are admired even from a distance, and even more up close.
They know how to cultivate charm, empathy, courage, and authenticity, which makes them unique and very inspiring.
In this post, we’re going to unpack all the building blocks of a great personality, so that you can get started on your way to awesomeness.
Ready? Here you go:
12 Ways To Build A Great Personality
1. Start With Warmth and Positivity
Being positive doesn’t mean ignoring life’s problems. It means choosing to respond to challenges with hope and kindness.
A warm personality makes people feel safe and uplifted. Not to mention, when you are positive for the world, you create the same atmosphere within you.
It is way better than walking around feeling resentful, angry, hurt, or burdened by problems that you can do nothing about.
Smile often, express genuine appreciation, keep your tone friendly, and be a dang good listener.
When you radiate warmth, you invite others to do the same.
That’s a superhero-level power right there! We gotta use it as often as we can.
2. Stop Comparing and Drop the Envy
Nothing clouds your personality faster than comparison.
When you’re busy measuring yourself against others, you shrink.
You start mimicking others, second-guessing your decisions, and resenting any parts of you that do not ‘measure up’.
But one of my favorite quotes is:
No one else can be you, and that’s your power.
If you try to be anyone other than yourself, you lose your biggest superpower, which is authenticity.
People sense when someone is real, and they gravitate toward that energy.
So, playing the comparison game and envying others is seriously the most futile thing you can do. It takes away from your personality.
I admit that social media can make this really hard.
I’ve had moments where I scroll through highlight reels and feel small.
But now, I’ve learned to catch that envy, question it, and turn it into inspiration, or just shut the app and return to my lane.
Envy distracts, but authenticity attracts.
The more you embrace your own timeline and trust your own flavor, the more effortlessly your personality shines!
3. Talk with Clarity
What you say matters for sure, but how you say it matters even more.
People with a good personality are clear and confident in their communication. This makes it easy for people to understand them.
I had a habit of talking fast, and my friends jokingly used to call me a bullet train. I realized it was causing blockages in my personality, so I fixed it by slowing down during conversations.
Clarity is a kindness to yourself and others, too.
So before you speak, take a second to organize your thoughts and use a calm and firm tone.
This trait will add a golden star to your personality, making people look forward to having more talks with you.
4. Take Care of Your Physical and Mental Health
Your personality doesn’t exist in a vacuum, you know. It lives in your body.
A great personality thrives on vitality. When you’re well-rested, nourished, and mentally centered, everything feels better.
I’ve found that when I’m eating well and getting good sleep, I’m not just more productive, but I’m also more generous, more patient, and more like myself.
Stay active by taking walks outside, stretching every morning, and doing workouts from YouTube.
For your mental health, adopt habits like journaling, therapy, prayer, and meditation.
Take time to clear your inner world, because a clear mind makes authentic expression.
5. Develop Emotional Intelligence
Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand and manage emotions, both your own and others’.
You can’t grow your personality if you’re ignorant of other people’s emotions and their reactions.
You need to be self-aware, have empathy, and also show the capacity to regulate your reactions.
But how do you do this if you’re someone who isn’t naturally good at managing emotions?
To start with, I’d suggest checking in with yourself throughout the day.
Notice how others are feeling and adjust your energy accordingly. When you respond instead of react, you show maturity and build trust.
Another great way would be to journal your small moments like when you feel off. Write about what triggered it and how you responded versus how you’d like to respond.
Over time, you’ll see patterns emerging, and managing emotions will be less of a reaction and more of a choice.
6. Dress and Carry Yourself with Care
Dressing up not is not for performance, or for vanity. I see it as curation.
Even on a casual day, if I wear something that fits well and feels right, it changes how I show up in the world.
When you dress in a way that reflects your personality, people take notice. You also feel much more confident when you put effort into dressing well.
So, while buying anything for your wardrobe, choose stuff that feels authentic to you.
And carry yourself with grace and care. Stand tall, walk with intention, and maintain eye contact during conversations.
These subtle cues send a message that you respect yourself and the people around you. A great personality trait to have, right?
7. Handle Conflict with Respect and Calm
Dear reader, if there is only one point you can take away from this post, it would be this one:
Reacting impulsively is easy, but being respectful and calm is what shows great personality.
During conflicts, take a deep breath and try to understand the other person’s perspective.
Your emotions may be high during such times, but be respectful still. Stand firm in your values, but stay open to compromise.
Resolving conflict with grace adds depth to your personality.
In tense moments, I find that simply repeating back what someone said diffuses a lot. “So what I’m hearing is…” gives space for both clarity and de-escalation.
Most conflicts aren’t about being right; they’re about being heard. Simple as that.
If you can understand this and practice it in real life, it will help you more than anyone else.
8. Nurture Relationships Even Before You Need Them
Strong personalities are rooted in strong relationships, and to have strong relationships, you need to constantly pour into them.
Don’t wait for a reason to check in on people. Reach out, show up, and stay connected whenever you can.
Be the one who makes plans, who invites people over for dinner, and who’s there when people need a shoulder to cry on.
Be generous with your time and attention, because when you make others feel important, you create strong bonds.
A simple habit that can help is sending short check-in messages randomly like: ‘Thinking of you. How’s your week?’
Efforts like these are what keep the thread alive. It’s how you remind people that they matter, and you’re always on their minds.
9. Show Your Values Through Action
Your values shouldn’t just be words. They should be visible in how you live.
Whether it’s through volunteering, supporting friends, or standing up for what’s right, let your actions mirror your beliefs.
When people see consistency between what you say and what you do, they know you’re the real deal.
Let’s say kindness is a core value for you.
Then, you should be someone who checks in on friends who’ve gone quiet, act patient with service workers, and maybe donates anonymously when you can.
Even if nobody is watching, you are. You will know when you are acting on your values and when you are being untruthful.
So, when you believe in something, show it in your actions. This will give you a mature kind of confidence that nothing else can.
10. Own the Traits That Define You
One of the most magnetic things about a person is when they have distinct traits that are unmistakably them.
We all know someone who’s ‘the music guy’, ‘the plant girl’, or ‘the one who’s always journaling in cafés.’
Things like these make a person memorable.
For me, it’s books and writing. I’m always reading something, so I talk about books, recommend them, stack them by my bed, and carry them on trips.
The same goes for writing. It’s how I process life!
These aren’t just hobbies that I picked up to be interesting. They’re things I truly connect with.
People in my life know me for these things, and I love that. Even something like keeping my hair short is part of my personality. It’s intentional, and it makes me feel great.
A good friend of mine does tarot readings (and she’s pretty good at it), and I admire that about her so much.
For you, it could be gardening, gaming, baking, archery, thrifting, calligraphy, or cycling. It should just be real to you, and that’s all.
Lean into what lights you up, and let it be a proud part of your personality.
11. Balance Confidence with Humility
Confidence and humility are two sides of the same coin.
Being confident can be hard for some people, while some people find it easy to be over confident and even beyond that.
To have a great personality, you wanna be someone who can balance confidence with humility.
What would that look like?
Here are some examples that will give you a good idea:
- Know your strengths and embrace them, but also acknowledge your weaknesses.
- Help others, and also be willing to ask for help.
- Admit when you’re wrong.
- Celebrate others without feeling threatened.
We come nearest to the great when we are great in humility.
12. Keep Your Energy Sustainable and Real
You don’t need to be ‘on’ all the time to have a great personality. We’re not here to fake anything or burn ourselves out.
What matters more is keeping it real, always.
Know your limits, rest when needed, and show up with real energy.
Say no to socializing when you need to, and be present when you decide to be in someone’s presence.
Give yourself regular breaks from life to refill your energy tank. No social media, no overbooking, just coffee and quiet.
These pauses will keep your energy sustainable and very real, so you can show up fully when it matters most.
Alright, those were the 12 tips from me. Thank you so much for reading till the end!
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