Here are 14 best ways to be more authentic, so that you can start living your true life as your truest self.
The word ‘authentic’ sounds very simple, but can be very confusing in real life.
We all know that being authentic means being yourself. But what if you don’t fully know who you are yet?
What if the version of you changes depending on who you are with?
And most importantly, what if being yourself feels uncomfortable?
No matter what’s stopping you from being yourself, there is no doubt that authenticity is very, very important.
Without authenticity, you don’t really live your true life.
You’ll always adjust, soften, yearn to be liked, not be ‘too much’, try not to say the wrong thing, and fear rejection.
But how does one go about being themselves, especially when there’s so much noise around us to muddle things up?
Read on to find out!
14 Ways To Be More Authentic
1. Stop Performing in Small Ways
You know those tiny moments where you slightly adjust yourself just to come across better?
You laugh loudly even though you don’t know what’s funny. You pretend to agree with something you don’t actually agree with.
And you say ‘I love that’ when you’re honestly just neutral about it.
That’s performance, and we all do it.
It doesn’t make you fake. It just means you’ve learned how to navigate people.
But to be authentic, you need to notice yourself performing and gently pull back.
You don’t have to suddenly start saying everything on your mind. Because that’s not authenticity either; that’s just impulsiveness.
But what you need to do is try to respond in a way that feels just closer to the truth.
Pause for a second, ask yourself how you actually feel, and then answer from that place.
You don’t need to form perfect words or be bold, but just honest enough that it feels real to you.
That’s how authenticity begins, and it’s honestly not hard at all.
2. Let People Misunderstand You
A big reason we struggle with being authentic is that we want to be understood perfectly.
We want our words to land exactly right, our intentions to be clear, and our personality to be liked.
So we explain ourselves too much.
We over-clarify, adjust how we speak depending on who we’re talking to, and end up exhausting ourselves.
But what you need to understand is that not everyone needs to fully get you.
Sometimes, you can say what you mean and let it land however it lands.
If someone slightly misunderstands you, it’s okay. If someone doesn’t fully vibe with you, that’s okay, too.
Authenticity requires a little emotional courage. You have to be willing to not be perfectly received all the time.
When you stop trying to control how everyone perceives you, it becomes very easy to be who you are.
3. Pay Attention To What You Actually Like
I know this sounds like very cliche advice, but it can’t be missed.
A lot of us don’t even know what we genuinely like because our preferences have been shaped by trends, the people around us, or what looks good from the outside.
But what do you actually like when you are not being influenced?
The only way to find out is by paying attention to yourself when you’re alone.
What kind of music do you naturally reach for when you’re by yourself? What kind of clothes make you like yourself instead of just put-together?
What kind of content do you enjoy without overthinking whether it’s productive or aesthetic enough?
These quiet choices are what build your authenticity.
You don’t make any bold declarations about who you are. You just choose more of what feels right to you, till it becomes a habit.
4. Be Honest But Kind About It
There’s this idea that being authentic means being brutally honest, like saying whatever comes to your mind without filtering it.
But that’s not authenticity. That’s just a lack of awareness.
Being authentic means being honest in a way that still feels aligned with who you are as a person.
You don’t have to hurt someone to prove that you’re being real.
For example, instead of bluntly saying you don’t like something, you can express your truth in a softer way that still feels genuine.
Express your thoughts with care, without changing your opinion.
Authenticity shouldn’t take away your warmth. If anything, it should deepen it.
5. Stop Changing Your Personality For Different People
It’s completely normal to act a little differently depending on where you are or who you’re with. That’s just social awareness.
But if you feel like you’re a completely different person in different situations, that’s where you start losing your sense of self.
Maybe you shrink yourself in certain spaces. Maybe you exaggerate parts of your personality in others.
Or maybe you feel like you’re always adjusting just to fit in.
To become your true self, you need to notice those patterns without judging yourself.
And then, slowly, start bringing those versions closer together.
You don’t need to be identical in every setting, but you should feel like yourself in every room. That’s what authenticity feels like.
6. Get Comfortable Saying ‘I Don’t Know’
There’s so much pressure to always have an opinion, to sound informed, and to keep up with everything.
But there’s something incredibly refreshing about simply saying, “I don’t know,” or “I haven’t thought about that.”
You don’t need to have fully formed thoughts on everything. You’re allowed to be in the middle of figuring things out.
In fact, being honest about your uncertainty makes you feel more real, not less.
It takes away that pressure to always have intelligence or awareness. You can just be present in the moment.
And if someone doesn’t like you not having an opinion, it says more about them than it does about you. Plain and simple.
7. Wear What Feels Like You
A lot of the time, we dress based on what looks good, what’s trending, or what we think other people will like.
And while there’s nothing wrong with wanting to look nice, authenticity shows up when your style actually reflects you.
Think about the outfits that make you feel the most comfortable, the most relaxed, the most like yourself.
Maybe it’s oversized clothes, soft colors, cozy textures, or simple pieces that don’t feel forced.
When you start dressing in a way that feels natural to you, it subtly changes how you carry yourself, too.
You stop performing and start settling into who you are. And it’s so freeing, both for your mind and body!
8. Don’t Force Yourself To Be Too Loud or Too Quiet
If you are a quiet person, the people around you might ask you to be louder, have more fun, or let loose a little.
If you are a loud person, they might tell you to slow down, talk quieter, or be more serious.
But the truth is that none of these personalities is ideal. What works for you works for you.
If you love being loud, outgoing, and being ‘on’, then fantastic! You don’t need to change who you are for others.
And if you’re naturally quieter, more observant, or more selective with your energy, that’s not something you need to fix either. That’s just your nature.
Authenticity isn’t about becoming a different version of yourself. It’s about fully accepting the version that already exists.
9. Trust Your Natural Reactions
Have you ever felt something genuinely (like excitement, discomfort, or curiosity) and then immediately toned it down?
Maybe you got excited but acted chill. Maybe something felt off about someone, but you brushed it aside.
When you push down your natural reactions, your authenticity slowly fades.
Your natural reactions are a part of who you are.
You don’t have to exaggerate them, but you don’t need to suppress them either.
The more you allow yourself to feel and express things as they come, the more connected you feel to yourself.
10. Stop Editing Yourself Mid-Sentence
Okay, so this is something many of us do without even realizing it.
You start saying something honestly, and then halfway through, you adjust it.
You soften it, rephrase it, or change it entirely so it sounds more acceptable. And again, you choose to be inauthentic.
So, next time you notice yourself doing this, try to stay with your original thought.
It might come out imperfectly or not sound as polished. But it will feel more real, and that’s what actually matters.
11. Spend Time Alone Without Distraction
If you’re always surrounded by noise (whether it’s people, social media, or constant content), then it becomes really hard to hear your own voice.
And your own voice is where authenticity lives.
How will you ever find who you are if you are not even making time to get to know the real you?
You need to make space for quiet moments in your everyday life.
So make space for quiet moments.
Go for a walk without your phone, sit with a cup of coffee, and just think, and let your mind wander while looking out the window.
Journaling can be incredibly helpful for this, and it’s also an amazing hobby to nurture.
The more time you spend with yourself, the more clearly you’ll hear your real thoughts, opinions, and preferences.
And that clarity will help you act on the outside the way you feel on the inside.
12. Accept That Not Everyone Will Like You
One of the biggest changes you need to make in this journey is to be okay with not being liked by everyone.
Because if you try to live your true life while keeping everyone happy, you will get stuck and will need to make a choice.
The only way to go here is to choose yourself.
Stop adjusting yourself for everyone, and don’t take other people into account when making life choices.
Some people will naturally stop connecting with you, and that’s okay (it sucks, but it will happen).
It doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. It just means you’re no longer trying to fit into spaces that aren’t meant for you.
And the people who do connect with you will connect with the real version of you, not a curated one.
That means you’ll have relationships that feel easier, deeper, and more genuine. A solid win, if you ask me.
13. Choose What You Want Over What You Should Do
So much of our behavior is driven by ‘shoulds’.
We are encouraged to act a certain way, like certain things, and follow a certain path.
But when your life is built around ‘shoulds,’ it starts feeling disconnected from who you actually are.
Authenticity grows when you start asking yourself what you want instead.
If you just pause and really listen to yourself, you’ll find that you already know what feels right.
You just haven’t been giving yourself permission to follow it.
14. Let Yourself Change
When we think about being authentic, a solid image pops into our mind, and we end up trying to chase it.
But I am asking you not to create a certain image of yourself, because being authentic doesn’t mean being the same forever.
You’re allowed to change and evolve. In fact, you actually should!
There’s beauty and liveliness in outgrowing things, changing your mind, and stepping into new versions of yourself. It makes you real.
If something that once felt like you doesn’t feel right anymore, it’s okay to let it go.
It doesn’t mean you’re not losing yourself. Just means you’re growing into a new version of yourself.
And that’s something to embrace and be happy about, not resist.
Let Yourself Be You!
Authenticity isn’t loud or dramatic. It’s not about standing out all the time or proving anything to anyone.
It doesn’t mean toning yourself down either.
At its core, being authentic means choosing honesty over approval. It means choosing comfort over performance, and truth over perfection.
The more you lean into your authenticity, the more peaceful life will start to feel.
And that is the only reason you need to be your complete true self.
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Before you go, type ‘I choose to be myself today, tomorrow, and every day.’ in the comment box. Let’s get you started on your journey to your becoming your true self. You got this!
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